The Back-to-School Transition: Preparing your child with ADHD for the new school year
The new school year is an exciting time – new experiences, new learning and new friends. And yet, for the child with ADHD, it’s also back to academic pressures and back to school stresses. The transition back to school can be fraught with anxiety, for both children and parents. If your child is at school full-time, on the hybrid model, or doing online schooling exclusively, structure, routine and predictability is key to making the transition back to school as smooth as possible. Here are some essential tips to get the school year off to a flying start:
Some children go on a medication vacation over the holidays or they adjust their dosage. Therefore, before the first day of school rolls around, ensure that your child’s medication is restarted, readjusted or reviewed for the school year.
If your child is going to high school or moving schools, try to get a tour of the school beforehand to allay any anxiety your child may have about their new environment.
Meet your child’s teacher as soon as you can to discuss your child’s needs, and any challenges that they may have experienced last year.
With impaired executive function and poor time management, prioritise getting your child organised. • For younger kids, this can be in the form of a visible calendar where they can see their schedule for the day and week.
• For your older child or teen, develop an organisational system together; set up binders, folders, and diaries before school starts.
• If your child forgets the steps for getting ready in the morning, for example, put up visual prompts to jot their memory.
• Work out a method with your child for checking homework completion, e.g. sitting down to tell you about the homework and to show you when it’s completed, or listing homework tasks on a whiteboard and marking them off when they have been done.
• If your child finds assignments daunting, break it down into smaller, more manageable chunks, and work out a plan of action with them. Then, let them diarise the dates for delivery.
Set up a study area and an organisational system to make your home conducive for studying. Keep their school bag and stationery supplies on a set place. Let them lay out their school and sports uniforms before going to bed, for example.
Children with ADHD generally struggle with falling asleep and waking up early, so at least a week before school starts, readjust weekday bedtime and wake-up times. As the school year progresses, let them review their work before bedtime as this technique helps with processing and retaining information.
Understand your child’s interests and hobbies and encourage extramural activities that will boost their confidence and give them an opportunity to excel. Regular exercise is particularly important for your child, considering its role in managing ADHD symptoms, so either include sport as part of extra mural activities or schedule time for your child (and yourself) to exercise on a regular basis.
Start developing your child’s metacognition.
Metacognition, defined as “thinking about your thinking,” is an important tool for developing self-awareness and self-regulation around one’s cognitive ability. With metacognitive practices, you become aware of your strengths and weaknesses as a learner; you recognise your knowledge and abilities; you know what your weaknesses are, and adapt your learning strategies and resources accordingly. This is an excellent tool for ADHD-diagnosed children, of all ages, and parents can guide their child on developing these practises. Here are a few points to start the coaching process:
a) Ask open-ended, process-oriented questions about their thinking process, such as:
– What are you thinking?
– Why did you do it that way?
– Why did you react the way you did?
– How could you handle that differently?
– How do you intend to study?
– How do you know when this (task) is finished?
b) Have conversations with your child about learning, strategies and resources they intend to use, and how to determine what’s working well or not.
c) Model the practise to your child by explaining to them how you monitor your learning, how you adjusted your thought processes, and what the outcome was as a result.
Build confidence and morale
School is challenging for the ADHD- diagnosed child and their self-esteem will take a knock. Parents and caregivers can also be very critical at times and point out weaknesses. Remember to focus on your child’s strengths, and use positive reinforcement tools to build their self-esteem.
Create calm and connection
David Code, in his book, Kids Pick Up On Everything: How Parental Stress Is Toxic To Kids, says that the most critical thing that we can provide our children with, is a sense of calm and creating a stress-free/ low stress environment. Based on evidence, he suggests that a child’s development is impacted by their parents’ levels of chronic stress. Parenting an ADHD-diagnosed child is very stressful, and as parents and caregivers, be mindful of alleviating your own stress and not transferring your stress onto your child. A mindfulness practise can help you acknowledge your emotions and develop self-control during stressful situations, giving your child the security they need to thrive.